It has now been 30 weeks of being pregnant. And there are only 7-10 weeks left. I can’t believe it is coming up so quickly. We are going to have a baby soon!
Baby Room and Supplies: We have a crib and a whole bunch of toys and a stroller and an amazing video baby monitor from some wonderful friends. The baby’s room has been painted and the clothes have been unpacked into drawers according to size. We have some clothes and a beautiful snowsuit!
Shopping: Sometime in the next week or so we are planning to get a car seat and a bassinet attachment for the stroller. I would also like to get a package of newborn diapers. I am not exactly sure why that is something I want, but it seems to be important for me. I asked all my mom friends what they would recommend as the ‘must need’ thing to get for a baby and the most recommended items were either a swing or a bouncy chair so those are also on the list of things to get.
Cloth Diapers: We are planning to use cloth diapers. It sounds like a big deal, but from all the research I have done, I don’t think it will be that bad (hopefully). I have done a lot of research online and talking to people who have used cloth diapers. There are two parts to the diaper, the inside part (prefold) and the outside cover. The inside part absorbs the pee and poo. When we change the diaper that part goes into the diaper pail. The cover part can be reused if it hasn’t been exposed to the pee or poo. We will plan to have 20-30 diapers and do laundry every other day or every third day. Although we hope this works, if it doesn’t that is okay and we can always go back to disposable diapers.
Research and Information: I like to be informed. I don’t like to go into too many situations without some idea of what I am getting into. So I have read a few books:
- “Why Love Matters” by Sue Gerhardt – A book about a baby’s brain and social/emotional development both in the womb and after birth. I found this one very interesting probably partially due to my background in psychology and counseling. A VERY basic synopsis of the book is that babies need love and attention. They have many needs and their parents/caregivers should meet their needs as best they can as quickly as they can. If babies have their needs met, their brains will develop well and they will grow up to the appropriately social and emotional human beings.
- “Top Tips from the Baby Whisperer” by Tracy Hogg – A book about how to get a baby to sleep. When we were first pregnant, I asked all my mom friends what books I should read to prepare for having a baby. This one was one of the most recommended. I have only read half of the book so far, I feel like it will be very valuable once our baby is a few weeks old. It gives us an idea of what kind of routine we should have for his sleeping and other activities.
- “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” by Heidi Murkoff and Sharon Mazel – Great informational book for the whole pregnancy. I have been reading it off and on trying not to overload on information.
- “1000 Questions about your Pregnancy” by Jeffrey Thurston – Another informational book I am reading in bits and pieces.
- “The Happiest Baby on the Block” by Harvey Karp – I have not read this book yet but it has come highly recommended by a dear friend who just had a baby so it is next on my reading list. It is also about helping the baby to sleep.
Despite reading and intending to read these books, I realize that we might not be able to follow every idea or suggestion in them. I appreciate learning the information and having some idea of what we will need to do with a newborn, but I also appreciate that we will need to learn about our baby and what he needs and what he is like.
Name: This is one of the most popular questions I am asked. Yes, we have chosen a name for our baby. But we are keeping it to ourselves until the baby is born. We chose the name by it being the only name that we both liked. Done!
Hospital: My doctor delivers babies at three different locations (1. private hospital, 2. private maternity ward in a local hospital, and 3. a local hospital) in Budapest. We are planning to have the baby at the private hospital, which is located just across the river. I am a little nervous about this whole delivery location situation because it feels very different than what I would expect at home. And I am not even sure what questions to ask to help. But we have a meeting at the hospital next week so hopefully that will help!